A WOMAN ON INSTAGRAM REELS SAID SHE ONLY BUYS LOAFERS SECOND-HAND - GENIUS!
I bought this pair of J Crew loafers for $50 on Black Friday and wore them to the Molly book release in early December. I haven’t worn them since because of the blisters that are only just now starting to fade. One time I was at a Forever 21 Fashion Week influencer event (long story) and saw a girl with the cutest loafers. I asked her where she got them. “Oh, they’re GH Bass Weejuns. So cute, but I’m never putting them on my feet again.” I’m not joking: she was holding back tears. Skip the trauma and buy a nice broken-in pair if you’re in the market. Here’s a cute brown pair I found for $40 you’re a size 6.
PETE HOLMES REPEATS THE MANTRA “I AM INNOCENT” IN THE MORNING
Really recommend this episode. I’ve cared about Pete Holmes since I was thirteen. I don’t even resonate with his comedy as much as I just like him as a person. Other things he mentions: A Course in Miracles, forgiveness, cold plunging.
THIS BONUS NEW YEARS EVE EPISODE OF THE MICHAEL SINGER PODCAST
“Every Day Gets Lighter When You Let Go Of Yourself.” I mean, what a title. I love the way he speaks. He’s like a sweet uncle or a much beloved high school history teacher. Listen in the shower.
THE EVLO FITNESS APP
I started lifting weights about a month ago after the end of my expensive love affair with [solidcore]. I listened to this episode of The Skinny Confidential before Christmas with Dr. Shannon, who founded EVLO. She really gets into the science of weightlifting, especially for women, and backs up everything with research. All the classes are taught by licensed physical therapists. They end each 35-minute lifting class with shavasana and saying “remember that you have done enough today, and that you are enough.” It brings me to tears, guess I’m fragile this time of year. Or maybe its the extra blood flow.
“DOES ANYTHING IN AMERICA ACTUALLY WORK ANYMORE?” AND OTHER COMMENTS ON NEW YORK TIMES ARTICLES
Lots of despair, hope, connection, confusion in the comments section of the New York Times. I want to read everyone’s comments on everything. The comments section is the best on stories about the East Village. Like this one. (“I had my first real job at the Orpheum Theatre in 1961, running the lights for a musical version of Rumplestiltskin with Dom DeLouise. I was paid $1.50/hr for the setup; I made $174 in that week. I moved into 280 East 10th St. (between 1st and A), paying $65/mo”) Also why I like reading old EV Grieve posts.
THAT IS NOT MY TASK, AND OTHER LESSONS FROM THIS SELF-HELP BOOK.
I downloaded The Courage To Be Disliked after observing a happy-looking woman reading it on the Q train. A lot of stuff in it didn’t resonate with me, but I weirdly clung to the premise and format. A sad young librarian befriends an older expert of Adlerian psychology and they participate in an ongoing dialogue. The voice actors are quite good. I listened to the audiobook as I deep cleaned my kitchen on Saturday morning and kept pausing to write down notes. Here are some: deny the desire for recognition, other people are not existing to satisfy your expectations, and you are not existing to satisfy theirs, repeat: from here on, that is not my task.
HOW EASY IT IS TO MAKE THINGS FROM SCRATCH IF YOU HAVE AN EASY RECIPE, THE RIGHT PLAYLIST, AND THE DESIRE TO DEVELOP MORE PATIENCE
I’ve made three loaves of pumpernickel bread, two batches of beef stew, and one lemon poppyseed pistachio cake since Saturday :O
APOLOGIZING, FORGIVENESS, INNOCENCE.
My grandmother has always told us to keep “short accounts” with others, to apologize when an apology is due, and quickly. This has gotten harder as I’ve gotten older. I don’t like to admit when I’m wrong. But however hard, we must resist hardening. This is part of the reason why Pete Holmes’ innocence mantra resonated with me. It’s like that thing where, in viewing yourself as innocent, you begin to view others as innocent, too.
I am so curious how all these people would act if they had social media. I also cannot fathom how arduous this process was — Edie is entirely interview-based. Jean Stein and George Plimpton compiled hundreds of interviews of people who knew either Edie, the Sedgwicks, or Warhol. Other great books to devour that are about, loosely, fascinating women: Hollywood’s Eve by Lili Anolik, Nancy Cunard by Lois Gordon, Fear of Flying by Erica Jong (not a biography, more like, proto-autofiction?)
THE LINE “WHY NOT THEN CONTINUE TO LOOK UPON IT ALL AS A CHILD WOULD, AS IF YOU WERE LOOKING AT SOMETHING UNFAMILIAR” WHICH WAS STUCK IN MY HEAD EARLIER AND I THOUGHT WAS EITHER FROM THE BIBLE OR A MARY OLIVER POEM UNTIL I GOOGLED AND REALIZED ITS FROM LETTERS TO A YOUNG POET
“To walk inside yourself and meet no one for hours – that is what you must be able to attain. To be solitary as you were when you were a child, when the grownups walked around involved with matters that seemed large and important because they looked so busy and because you didn’t understand a thing about what they were doing. And when you realize that their activities are shabby, that their vocations are petrified and no longer connected with life, why not then continue to look upon it all as a child would, as if you were looking at something unfamiliar, out of the depths of your own world, from the vastness of your own solitude, which is itself work and status and vocation? Why should you want to give up a child’s wise not-understanding in exchange for defensiveness and scorn, since not-understanding is, after all, a way of being alone, whereas defensiveness and scorn are a participation in precisely what, by these means, you want to separate yourself from.”
Edie was one of the fastest reads I have ever read
Soooo good thank you for sharing!! Many links were clicked